When you choose to approach life with a victim mentality, you will do nothing but self destruct and hold yourself back. By always looking at the negative and accepting the things in your life that make you unhappy as outside of your control, you ensure that you will never be able to change them. This is a lesson I had to learn the hard way. When I was younger I really struggled with this. My early childhood was filled with a lot of pain and sadness as I lost my father at a young age. As a child I felt like that loss along with other traumatic/negative experiences defined who I was as a person. I accepted it as a part of myself I couldn’t change and I spent a lot of time focusing on the past. When I got older, around age 13/14 I became extremely depressed. It got to the point where I had negative thoughts practically 24/7 and accepted them all as my own and valid, and was extremely suicidal. It wasn’t until after a suicide attempt at fourteen that resulted in a heart attack and 9 day hospital stay that I was officially diagnosed with “major depressive disorder” and put on medications. The doctor explained that major depressive disorder was caused by low levels of serotonin in my brain and made it seem like there was nothing I could do to change that. I was not asked about my diet, no blood work wasn’t done to check the levels of key nutrients in my body, the emotional abuse from my stepfather wasn’t even considered as a factor. I accepted my depression as something that was a part of me that I couldn’t change. I let it define who I was as a person. I chose to live with a victim mentality because I didn’t know there was another option.
Flash forward six years, and I am now completely happy with life and fall asleep every night feeling fulfilled. By choosing to look at life positively, I have completely changed my mindset. I now know that every day we have the choice to live in the present and move forward with life, growing into a better person. I have learned so much about natural health that I now understand when you become sick with any illness or disease it is almost always a direct result of the choices you have made. The diet you choose to eat, the products you use, the lifestyle you live. Illness and disease including mental illness is not something that just “happens” to you- I know there are some exceptions to this, but I’d say 90% of illness is a direct result of lifestyle choices.
By choosing to let go of the past and live each moment in the present, look at everything in life with a positive and grateful perspective, and take responsibility for the consequences of choices you make; you can ditch the victim mentality. Be patient with yourself, it won’t happen overnight. Even for me it’s still a journey and I have both good and bad days. But by focusing on the growth I’ve made and where I hope to be in the future I know I will continue to progress!